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Why This Exists

My best friend Scott Spencer was a veteran. Army. Funny as hell, loyal to a fault, loved Jesus, and had this laugh that could fill a room - just like his dad.

We were friends for 34 years. Road trips where we could talk for hours or sit in comfortable silence. High school chaos. Theological debates. He was at my wedding. I was at his. Over the last year, we talked once or twice a week - me in LA, him in Kuwait doing business and port contracts.

In September 2025, Scott took his own life.

His antidepressants stopped showing up. I don't know if it was the mail system, the military contract bureaucracy, or what. But somewhere between Kuwait and whatever pharmacy was supposed to keep him supplied, the medication just... stopped. I only found this out afterward. I guess he expected them to show up. It never happened.

Then Scott's wife called.

It took me three days to believe it was real. I called him. Sent texts. Checked my phone like an idiot, thinking maybe I'd missed something.

I wasn't there. I didn't see the signs - or maybe I did and didn't know what I was looking at. Even through all the mental replays, I still don't see what I missed. The last time I talked to him, he still had his meds. Going cold-turkey could have changed things...

I couldn't help him. So this is me making sure I'm there for someone else.

Me & Scott hanging out in Santa Barbara

Me & Scott hanging out in Santa Barbara

You're not broken. But you are carrying something heavy.

Maybe you're scanning every room for exits. Maybe you can't feel anything when you should, or you're feeling everything all at once. Maybe you're pissed off at everyone and you don't know why. Maybe your family says you've changed. Maybe you're thinking about eating a bullet because it seems easier than another day of this shit.

Here's What I Know

I know that 17.6 veterans die by suicide every day. And that's a conservative number which doesn't include the ones who died of drug overdoses, alcoholism, or "accidentally" on purpose.

I know that asking for help feels like admitting weakness in a culture that taught you to drive on no matter what.

I know you've probably told yourself: "I didn't get shot at as much as [that guy]" or "I didn't lose a limb, so I don't have the right to complain" or "Other people had it worse."

I know that's bullshit. Your struggle is valid regardless of what anyone else went through.

I know the transition from having a clear mission and brothers who get it to being just another civilian is jarring as hell.

And I know that the civilian world doesn't understand. The "thank you for your service" followed by awkward silence. The people who think they get it but don't. The providers who talk at you with clinical terms that mean nothing.

What I Can Help With

I'm a board-certified hypnotherapist. I give away one free 90-minute to 3-hour session per week to veterans who need help with:

  • Intrusive thoughts and memories that won't shut the fuck up

  • Anger that's destroying your relationships

  • Suicidal thoughts (yes, I'm saying it directly - if you're thinking about it, let's talk)

  • Hypervigilance that won't turn off

  • Emotional numbness or emotional overload

  • The impossible gap between who you were in uniform and who you're supposed to be now

  • Reintegrating into civilian life when nothing makes sense anymore

  • Interim help dealing with medication issues, system failures, or being alone somewhere without support

What This Is (And What It Isn't)

What it IS:

  • 100% confidential - No one will know unless you tell them. Not your command, not your employer, not the VA, not anyone. HIPAA-compliant, private records.

  • One free session, no strings attached, in Scott's honor

  • 90 minutes to 3 hours - however long you need

  • Online only (HIPAA-compliant telehealth)

  • Someone who will listen without the clinical bullshit

  • A different angle that might help you get back what you lost

What it ISN'T:

  • A way for me to fill my calendar or make money off you

  • A diagnosis or prescription (I'm not a doctor)

  • A guarantee that one session fixes everything

  • Therapy from someone who served (I didn't - more on that below)

Who Qualifies

Scott showing off his new find.

You must be a veteran of:

  • Army

  • Navy

  • Marines

  • National Guard

  • Coast Guard

That's it.

I work on a first-come, first-served basis while slots are available. I only schedule out 4 weeks in advance. When those are gone, I close the window until the next spot opens up. I don't want to promise anything I can't deliver.

The Honest Tradeoff

I'm not a doctor.

That's right, I'm not a doctor. And I was never in the military. I took one year of JROTC before my family shut it down. And I still regret that decision to this day. But we can't rewind time, so I'm doing this instead.

Here's why that might actually work in your favor:

Less institutional authority, more individual attention. I'm not part of the system that trained you to "suck it up." I won't think "just drive on" when you tell me what's going on. I don't have the VA's backlog. I don't have a one-size-fits-all protocol. Everything is customized on the fly to help you with whatever situation you're currently in.

No empty promises, but genuine commitment to your specific situation. I can't guarantee results because I'm not going to lie to you. What I can guarantee is that I'll show up, I'll listen, and I'll work with what YOU need, not what a manual says you need.

I can't diagnose. I can't prescribe. I can't change your meds. That stays with your doctor or psychiatrist.

What I can do is use techniques that work with how your brain actually processes experience - not just talking about it, but helping you shift how you're carrying it.

What Happens in a Session?

We talk. Really talk. Not the surface-level shit.

Think of it like this: Your mind has been running the same program on repeat - the hypervigilance, the anger, the intrusive thoughts. Hypnotherapy is a way to access that program and rewrite parts of it.

Some things might shift in one session. Some things might not. If you want to continue after your free session, we can discuss that. But this one is on me, for Scott.

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How to Apply

Fill out the form below. It takes less than 5 minutes. I'll call you the next business day to schedule.

Bring whatever you're carrying. Leave the rank at the door. Let's see if we can get you some relief.

Your Privacy is Protected

This stays between us. Your information is completely confidential. No one, not your unit, employer, or anyone else will know you reached out unless you choose to tell them.

If You're In Immediate Crisis

Please do not use this form. Get immediate support:

  • Call or Text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline)

  • Veterans Crisis Line: 1-800-273-8255, Press 1

  • Text 838255 (Veterans Crisis Line)

  • Chat at VeteransCrisisLine.net

This form is for scheduling a confidential consultation, not for emergency services.

One More Thing

I know that reaching out feels weak. Other vets will tell you that it is. Even the research says 42.9% of veterans think they'll be seen as weak for getting help.

And you already know the truth: It takes more courage to ask for help than it does to stay silent.

You have the courage to do this. You faced whatever you faced downrange and you can face this too. You don't have to do it alone.

And the ones who would call you weak, do they have the courage to do this?

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